“There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.”
- Paulo Coelho
So many motivational thinkers have always said the same, Our minds can be made to do just anything we wish.We just have to will it, and think we can, the moment we think we cannot ...from then on it is downwards.
How do we do this ? we must visualize the end result what we really want, and train our minds to look in that direction. As easy as this ? No, definately not so easy, but not impossible
How do I begin to follow this exercise ? we all know how are minds are overloaded with information that we do not really need, some of this information, maybe negative thoughts that we have stored. We have to empty our minds, rid ourselves of this trash, clear the cobwebs and leave a clear, free space for our fresh positive thoughts.
Most of the success stories that we read of are people, who had BIG Dreams, and nearly always started from scratch. Leave the opinions of others alone, look within yourself, and the answer will be there within you.
My mother always told us as kids, whatever we do, do it to the best of our ability. I was acting in a play as bunch of flowers, the main part had gone to the pretty girl, At that time, I was upset, and that was when she said"Be the best flower that one has seen," this has always stayed with me, and always, worked for me.
You could ask the people who have been on that journey or ask people coming from that road that you want to go, ask "How did you do that ?"
Be clear in your thinking about what you want, clarity gives you the power to step towards your goal. There may be times, when nothing seems to be happening, do not be dismayed, do not despair, mainly do not give up your dream, instead remember,
"Whatever the mind can conceive and believe it will achieve.the more you think about it, the more you focus around it...IT WILL HAPPEN."
Have you ever felt like a million spears hitting you where it hurts the most ? It really hurts, but we cant let go our love for the one responsible for this hurt.
It happens with everyone we love the most, the kids,the spouse, the family, and something in us will not let us hurt back.
However much I try to retaliate, it just wont let me, so I exercise my mind to go into a deep blank spot, and try and focus around the issue, instead of how it happened ? or what did I say ? nothing is more calming than a cleared up mind that focuses on doing a detour on the problem, try and go around it and you will see that you have arrived at a brand new road, a new solution, and from then you will never look back.
These are opportunities that we are pushed into to get on in life, so lets take it upon us, and go .. go .. go
"The kids have grown so fast," is the usual remark, someone makes, when they see them after a long time.
But have they really ? For us, they will always be 'Little children"
Yes, we do have to let them grow, and lead their own lives, but deep down they should be secure in the knowledge that they have our support.My parents, were always there for us, during our kids growing up years. A late evening at the office and there were my kids who were looked after by my parents, all washed, fed and kept ready to be tucked in for the night.
Our care for them, even as they grow up into adults, and our concern about the little blimps that they pass through makes a lot of difference, in terms of their emotional security. It really does not matter how anyone views our concern, so long as they are indepedent and we give them their space.
I have a friend who had taken his daughter and her husband under their wings after they went into a huge financial loss, especially that the girl, had eloped with her now husband, I think that was a magnanimous act on the part of the parents.
Nothing should stop us in always being concerned about our kids and of course whats happening in their lives.
I always love that phonecall where my mother chatters to me and realise how blessed I am, I feel so wanted and loved.
So dearies, make it a point to show concern, to inquire and of course that phone call will mean a lot.
I Was watching the two kids, around 5- 7 year olds, playing around whilst their mother prepared their dinner.
They lived on the pavements outside a posh apartment and I was waiting for my friend.
Just seeing them giggling and pushing (Yes, there was hardly any place to push ) but nevertheless they were having their share of fun, giving me too a happy sunny smile
Occasionally their mother leaned towards their direction and gave them a stern warning, I guess she told them to be wary of the vehicles around the place.
The children had a broken toy and a soft toy, on a chair there besides them lay a couple of text books probably their school books, mother was humming a tune, and also making an occasional comment to her 'neighbour.'
The kids seemed to be happy with whatever was theirs, happy with their broken toys, and a warm meal for the night.
What a feeling of guilt that was for me, that evening, they had so little but were the happiest ones I have seen in a long long time.
What does it take to make us all happy and content ? we must look around and then it will dawn upon us, how fortunate we are.
It is totally up to us to be the way we are. So lets dwell on the little things, and look around for happiness, its not too far.. a smile, a touch or maybe a warm hug.
PLAY IS THE HIGHEST FORM OF RESEARCH
- Albert Einstein
We all know how children love the great outdoors. Give a child the choice of being indoors or playing oudoors, they would definately opt for the latter. Children as we all know, are spontaneous - they do not keep back or analyze what they have to say.
Have you ever watched a child at play in a park, or even in a little puddle of water that the rains have caused? He is all absorbed in his play, swinging on the swings, looking for that push to feel... for just a second like a bird soaring. See the kids splash around in that puddle, unaware of the germs or dirt in it. At times like these i too feel like jumping along with them - we all have a child hidden within us, and do hope we never lose that. What about that little kid who has just had a fall off the slide? She now knows that she must go up the slide the right way. Every little experience, good or bad, teaches them.
In the documentary, the little boy is pasting himself with mud. Watch the ecstasy written all over him, the joy and the mess he has created for himself is all about having fun.The kids seem to enjoy being the kids they they are surely having fun, "To learn we have to get dirty," quotes one little kid. SO TRUE !!!
I always believed, when my kids got home, the dirtier they were, the more they enjoyed themselves, mudstained clothes, clods of earth on their shoes, and not forgetting the largest inhabitants of this earth, the ants, they would have so many ant bites as they were always curious to watch the ants carry their food into the nests and once they nearly broke a mini ant nest.
Many a times, they would take their waterbottles with them, only to come back and tell us, that they have grown a mango seed in the soil and have watered it, with that water, so "Mom, in a few months we will be able to eat mangoes," with their huge eyes and blabber that could melt any mothers heart. (I, of course, melted completely) They took me to see their "mango sapling" and could not believe as the earth was all dug up and no sign of any mango seed, at that time they realised that they had to shelter the seed away from the dogs around the place. They had learnt the hard way, but they would never ever make that mistake.It's not so much what the kids learn through play but what they wont learn if we dont give them that chance to play.
After an outdoor play session, notice how happy the child is, his talking can go on forever, how the goalie should have saved the ball this way had he not been dreaming,
Every face of the children who live in the city tell a tale, the longing of space, and the freedom that their inner selves long for.Like the girl who is riding the bike to get to school in the documentary shows us, how happy she is although going to school.
The great outdoors seen through the eyes of a child can never be the same for adults, the childs imagination runs wild here, he sees shadows lurking behind the cars and together with his gang of friends and all armed with fallen branches they try and captures the imaginary enemy. The little girl places a flower in her hair, and preens, like she is a Queen. Many a times, I have watched the kids play below my window,and have noticed how they enjoy stoning at "that" guava and after it was down, they would all take bites (still cant figure out how tiny each bite was,) but nonetheless they seemed to be enjoying the camaraderie.
Recently there was a dead sparrow, and who could have spotted it first but of course the kids, who are always looking for adventure. Their beady eyes missing nothing, saw it and the eldest of them just a teeny weeny 7 year old, decided to bury the little bird, he called his friends, all smaller than him and dug a pit, put in the bird, and covered it up with a mound of mud, and all left with a sense of solemnity. I was intrigued, these little 7 to 5 year olds had shown their love and respect for the little bird, in narrating this, would like to say that being in the outdoors gave them this opportunity.
We parents must know that besides their academic scores which is important as their play, everything needs a balance in life, unbalanced kids can be a nuisance to society and ultimately, tiresome adults, so the responsibility lies on us parents and our ability to help them balance work and play.The children in this documentary are so stressed leaves them no time to enjoy the great outdoors, physical excersise would be nothing compared to the mental stress that they go through.The boy clearly say"favourite part of the day is, when I play with my friends,"
In the words of L.R.Knost," “For a child, it is in the simplicity of play that the complexity of
life is sorted like puzzle pieces joined together to make sense of the
world.”
Dr.Ashok Jansari, in this documentary, stresses on the balance between academics and play, he states that going out and playing is an opportunity the children alongwith having fun, and how we parents must see that we they get their dose of outdoor play, he stresses that all their inner skills develop at a young age when they have been exposed to this "form" of learning.
My theory has always been fusing work with play, as you walk along the garden teach them colours of the flowers, show them the birds nests, mango blossoms, the cuckoos and the crows, the cycle and the motorcycle.
What a wonderful experience it is just being with the little ones,
their eager eyes grasping every little thing that passes by and their
ears taking in every sound of the wind or the whistle of the mynah.
“Go and play. Run around. Build something. Break something. Climb a tree. Get dirty. Get in some trouble. Have some fun.”
