Discipline your son in his early years while there is still hope. If you don't you will ruin his life

I remember when I was a little child, my parents would always quote the above to me but in their own way, "There is only this much we can do/correct/make you understand the rest of you and how you decide to live and form yourself is all in your hands"
Our parents are our first contact with the world outside, our first teachers and our closest friends, our pillars, our banks(Till such time we start a job!) and yet many a times I have been a mute witness to them being the last people to know a happy situation.
The child was his parents only, and the apple of their eyes, they doted on him and nothing would make them believe that he was sometimes on the wrong side of the law, they would blame him, her them even if it would make sense -  aliens, such was their total and complete trust in their child, nothing wrong here BUT when a lot of complaints keep pouring in from neighbours and friends they must be looked into, not"Impossible that he can stone your window," "I saw him do it" "NEVER" and BBBANG the door shut on their faces, it was the same old routine. Everytime some one went to complaint to his parents.
The boy grew into a little adult completely knowing that his parents were never ever going to find out his wrong doings or even if they did, "Not my child" he was so sure about it.
Bad company, no correction and unaccounted for  money  was a fatal combination, to his downward spiraling graph.
The mother and father were the last ones to know their "little boy" had entered into wedlock, that he was a father.
They could take it no more, they grew miserable and heartbroken was the way they lived.
A lot of thoughts passed my mind whilst many a "friend" came to their rescue, How compassionate we human beings are, how despite the same people being shouted at, they were the ones to pull them out of their darkness.
Nothing came to be know about the boy, except that he migrated to some foreign land, and that too his parents came to know via some channels.
We must realise however deep is our love for our kids, we must not rear monsters, we must see reason and analyse why so many complaints keep coming, and probably talk to our child coax him to tell the truth and each child has a different way to be dealt with, we parents can be the only priviledged people to be able to handle this difficult situation.

“Perhaps it takes courage to raise children..” - John Steinbeck

"Are you lonesome tonight, do you miss me tonight are you sorry we drifted apart, do your memories stray to a warm summer day............."
He was singing this song with an emotion, that was so real, and only those few knew why this song meant so much to him.
He looked so sad and lonely as he belted out this famous song. Many moons ago,( let us call him Elvis after the famous singer whose lines he was crooning)Elvis was in love with a beautiful girl, beautiful within and out, they made an awesome couple, BUT there was a hitch, they came from different denominations, cultures were poles apart, despite all of this they seemed to be a couple made in heaven, the boys family was fine with this, BUT the girls family were guns ablazing, nothing could make them see reason "The young couple is happy" NO it was, and as we know how we strive to keep our parents happy the girls priority was this, Mother and Father could not see reason, they refused to see reason, they threatened, they pleaded, they begged and there she was betrothed to another.
A grand wedding at a five star hotel and life went on for her, I knew Elvis better ..Elvis completely broke down, refused to socialise, refused to meet any of his old friends, and continued with his job and his part time job as a singer and he was good at it.
It was at a common friends wedding that she (his Ex) attended that he especially sang out this song
She was well aware of his eyes moving in the direction of her dances, but the gentleman that he is...Never spoke a bad word about his relationship, not a harsh word about his old flame,
When we asked him about it all,"Oh! love is not meant to be caged, let it free if its yours it will come back to you "
And life goes on for him, says "Maybe true love will walk by me....One Day!"
Just watching Elvis sing his songs and we knowing the true meaning of the lyrics, the songs mean sooo much more.

'If someone you love, hurts you, cry a river, build a bridge, and get over it."

What a beautiful face that was I saw as I stood at the bus stop waiting for my bus. She stood a few metres away from me and was talking all the while into her tiny phone she held into her tiny palm.
But one thing disturbed me, she was weeping bitterly and silently maybe the person on the other side would never know, lest her voice gave her away.
The tears stained her pink cheeks and she was oblivious to the people around her who cared to look at her.
Maybe she was hurt, maybe she was a sensitive girl, I will never know.
I too have been in similar situations where even a tiny harsh word could throw me off for a few minutes, a few tears and a bout of sulking and there I was myself.
I too have cried in the privacy of my home a fight with loved ones, harsh colleagues, uncaring people.
This pretty girl, was conveying soft words to the person... my mind went off to various things that could have happened
 I too have silently cried behind my sunglasses, bright sunshine hot tears,
Gushing rains down my umbrella, hot tears rolling down my cheeks, its is a feeling one cannot control.
Helpless, standing there saw her walk into the bus, still stuck on her phone, all I could say was"God Bless you child, "
I will never know WHY ?

As the year closed on us yesterday, within minutes the year 2012, went off in smoke, What a welcome 2013 was given, With our heads bowed the people gathered prayed for peace, good leadership and wisdom to prevail, particularly the youth who are our future citizens, and in a way become the ones to take the country forward.

Deeply bent in prayer my heart and my whole being was with the girls parents(The delhi horrendous rape victim now known as victim X) only my physical being was at prayer.

My heart went out to her parents who I can relate to as I am also a mother of a teenager, and everytime she steps out"Take care " "Watch your step" 

Can one human do this to another ? actually speaking were they humans ?

What went wrong with their parenting? surely there must have been and thats for sure there will always be little signs along the way that snowballed into such a massive, horrendous surreal ..am at a loss for words.

We as parents tend to ignore little signals that we have to correct ... Maybe we have to learn from the mistakes of these demons and most importantly equip our own sons and daughters that it is time to take signs and stand up for truth, may anger a few, maybe you will stand up alone, BUT, nothing should change your attitude to speaking up.

With a prayer on my lips as We welcomed 2013, we also prayed for a better India and a better tomorrow for each and everyone of us...