Is it your Head or your Heart ?

Life always has so many options, the good, the not so good, the bad and not so bad, but we have to deal with all of this with a clear mind, and use our heads and not our hearts.
But does it really work that we use our heads in all our decisions, ? sometimes I tend to use my heart and know that I have goofed it up for myself(No one else is at stake here!)
Many a times when the kids were little and life was tough for them.i.e.  all they wanted to do was play with their friends, and nothing could me  pleasure than seeing happiness all over their faces.
Very often, it was "come on, get over with that work, project, chapter etc,and then only can you go down to play,"
Often, it was difficult to say those words, as I knew deep inside what I really wanted to give them.
a little bit of cheer, forget about the studies for that time, and just laugh, and run jump and scream,....... go babies go.
Having done this often, I would ask the kids, if they would sincerely pick up their  unfinished tasks and do it, after their play,"Yes" was the fastest yes, I have ever heard.
During all of these experiences of mine i.e. dealing with my heart a little more than my head, I have found happiness within me, a feeling that is inexplicable, and to see the joy on the kids faces, their shoes muddied, their tees, messed up..lifted me up to know that I did well or rather my heart did well.
On the flip side, it cannot always be so, there are times, the head has to take over completely no heart here.
There was this vendor where I stopped to pick up a little knick knack, not a regular there, and had not see his face before, I picked up the brightest floor brush, and the change he gave me, was not right,
My heart took over me...completely.."let it go" "not too much to let go, come on!" that was what I was hearing my heart speak.
But my head said"No" "teach him  the right  way,"
So all said and done I told him he had to give me some more change to make the balance right.
He realised he could not get any further with his excuses and gave  me the change.Like I mentioned very little, but surely after telling him kindly not to do so as he would loose a lot of his customers he would have realised it.
After that incident felt so much better that I did not mix up my emotions...
We  have to have a balance of both, surely life gives us the options,

                                     

Rose tinted glasses

"Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself. They came through you but not from you and though they are with you yet they belong not to you."
-Kahlil Gibran

The other day I had taken the bus to get to the market, having finished all my jobs, sat down near a window. A couple of stops later, an elderly woman got onto the bus and was carrying bags, which did not seem too heavy but, considering her frail frame it looked like a load to her , She selected the empty seat next to me and with a wide smile settled herself.
The conductor came along and they seemed to know each other" probably", I thought" she travels this way often"
The woman was a very friendly person and in an instant we were chatting about the rush and the recent happenings, from one thing it moved on to another, and in a flash there she was pouring her life before me, I was a little wary "Was she genuine" and I did my best to dismiss such wild thoughts about an innocent woman..
She told me about her husband, who was home , her child, an adopted boy whom the parents doted on, and "Now" she said, "He detests us both,"
The adopted son was apparently working and doing extremely well for himself and supporting himself and a family of two kids and a wife who was working as well, it was a very sad woman talking,
She even told me," that life is hell for the two of us, the moment he gets home, we scamper into the bedroom and leave him alone with the family,"
The heavy traffic gave us a lot of time to chat and learn a lot from this woman,
She said, "Never ever let things get you down, I take the kids along with their maid to the nearby park and see that they are spruced up by the evening, I would never let His bad behaviour affect my relationship with the children, "
I was nearing my stop and she was going ahead, She told me one important thing,
"Listen, I kind of opened my heart to you, like I known you since ages, maybe God has sent an angel to unburden my heart, I cannot talk to anyone, But there is only one thing, you can learn from this, Try never to depend on your children, learn to live the way you can afford, my husband and me are both pensioners and this is the secret to my happiness, we live life the way we can, that is why you can see me beaming ..God Bless you "
I felt myself choking and looked at her happy face .. waved a goodbye to her and there she was straightening her saree pallav ... getting ready to get off at her stop...