RANDOM DEEDS OF KINDNESS.

"Here, here ," she said,  and stretched out a tissue to help me with the stain and a gooey mess the crow had left upon my blouse, there was my sister(Thank God for sistas !!) helping me out and here was another angel who saw us and in a blink she was upon us with her wet wipes, saving the evening for me,  the citrusy smell of her wipe stayed with me all evening.Thank you girl !
Have you ever experienced such random deeds of kindness ? where for no apparent reason a stranger comes and helps you out and Just......disappears ? many a times I have been helped out and it amazes me that,I too want to spread the kind deed and see a smile on the face, and Goodness me ! the feeling is inexplicable
I was waiting to cross over the extremely busy street, the traffic was crazy, and I stood patiently for maybe ten minutes or more just waiting to get across, not knowing that I had a taxi driver who was watching me.
Taxi driver walked to me and asked me if he could drop me, "No,thank you,  its just on the other side", I said with my glance swiftly back on the traffic waiting for a chance to cross the road.
"No, Maam, I am going across to the petrol pump across  and I can drop you,"all complete with a gentle smile.
I was touched with this kind gesture and all morning had a smile pasted on my face,
Just goes to show us that a tiny little deed done by us can make a strangers day.
The most common place that we can show our kindness is the bus, almost everytime I get a seat, there will someone who will be standing and deserves that seat more than you, and the smile and huge thank yous you get are enough to fill the soul.

An elderly woman who could barely walk was slowly making her way to the taxi, but his cab was occupied, dejected she turned around to see my husband, who told her to wait at that same spot, he went at the busy junction and came along  in a taxi, the joy on the ladys face ....unbelievable.
It warms the cockles of my heart to know that my kids too have learnt and mirror this, my daughter was so little when she was returning from school with her friend, and the streets were flooded all around, they took it upon themselves to reach a little girl from their school who travelled in their school bus, and could not find her way home with all the streets turned into one big ocean, they dropped her onto the other side of  the pavement where she lived.
Many a times I see the kids,  both passing on these deeds of kindness and it makes me realise that just a single act of kindness, can spread so much of cheer and happiness
These random deeds have a ripple effect and the goodness and cheer they bring upon an unexpected face.....BELIEVE ME, GO AHEAD, EXPERIENCE IT.
                                                

SHE WILL ALWAYS BE MY HERO.

The faceless woman that we see on the roads, who is hurrying alongwith her bag slung over her shoulder, trying to race for the bus, or maybe that woman who is tagging her kids one hanging on each arm reaching them to the nearby creche, their temporary home for the day, or the one haggling with the vendor to save a penny or two.
Its these few examples of the women that I admire the most, so strong and so determined to get the home fires burning, to keep her family comfortable.
It is always a woman who stands by her family, and most of the times her man, she will always fight her battles, and at all costs see that the children get the very best she can afford.
My own maid, in her early years into marriage her husband became an alcoholic,  he had a good job going as a ward boy with a top end hospital, he would down drinks till he could no more, and the wife would silently bear with his nonsense and tantrums, at times even giving him money to buy himself shoes.
I always had this feeling that she was unhappy, and one fine day, decided to  ask her why she always looked so gloomy, she did not open immediately, and tried to put on a brave front like nothing happened, I let her be and after a couple of days finally broke her silence on the man who had made her life miserable and narrated her tale on  how she tried to glue her whole family together.
She has three girls and one boy, all educated the boy a BCom graduate and working with a computer firm, the girl a data entry operator and the other two one a housewife and one working.
She has single handedly brought up the children the right way and taught them to fend for themselves.
Not one of them has followed her profession, and it makes me proud that I have just a wee part to play here.
Encouraging her, goading her and basically sympathizing with her, giving her a ear when she was down helped her a long way.
One fine day her husband was sacked from his 'plush' job, she got crazy at least that kept  him out of her hair during his job hours. Can you believe what she did ? this tiny woman, who does not know to read.
She plucked up courage and went off to meet the top bosses of his department ,begging to give him one last chance, and she even gave them the option of taking on her son... hats off to this tiny woman.(He had been warned many times before he was sacked!), she walked in one evening dressed up better than other work days, and that is when she told me her courage and motivation that took her all the way to the bosses.
The end story nothing could be done to get back his job, But my heart goes out to this woman who did whatever she could to save things for the same man who had destroyed her happiness and peace.
She still works with me, a much settled woman as now her children are big and doing well for themselves the boy has even managed to buy a house in the surburbs for his family. All because of the strength of this tiny gutsy, woman.
I admire the woman despite all odds, who will never lie back and complain, instead pick up the pieces and join them to form a whole.
She will always be One of my Heroes                                 
                                          

WE WILL ALWAYS BE THERE

"The kids have grown so fast," is the usual remark, someone makes, when they see them after a long time.

But have they really  ? For us, they will always be 'Little children"

Yes, we do have to let them grow, and lead their own lives, but deep down they should be secure in the knowledge that they have our support.My parents, were always there for us, during our kids growing up years. A late evening at the office and there were my kids who were looked after by my parents, all washed, fed and kept ready to be tucked in for the night.

Our care for them, even as they grow up into adults, and our concern about the little blimps that they pass through makes a lot of difference, in terms of their emotional security. It really does not matter how anyone views our concern, so long as they are indepedent and we give them their space.

I have a friend who had taken his daughter and her husband under their wings after they went into a huge financial loss, especially that the girl, had eloped with her now husband, I think that was a magnanimous act on the part of the parents.

Nothing should stop us in always being concerned about our kids and of course whats happening in their lives.

I always love that phonecall where my mother chatters to me and realise how blessed I am, I feel so wanted and loved.

So dearies, make it a point to show  concern, to inquire and of course that phone call will mean a lot.


        The greatest gifts you can give someone are your time, your attention, your love, and your concern.

Happiness Is In Our Hands

 I Was watching the two kids, around 5- 7 year olds, playing around whilst their mother prepared their dinner.

They lived on the pavements outside a posh apartment and I was waiting for my friend.
Just seeing them giggling and pushing (Yes, there was hardly any place to push ) but nevertheless they were having their share of fun, giving me too a happy sunny smile
Occasionally their mother  leaned towards their direction and gave them a stern warning, I guess she told them to be wary of the vehicles around the place.
The children had a broken toy and a soft toy, on a chair there besides them lay a couple of text books probably their school books, mother was humming a tune, and also making an occasional  comment to her 'neighbour.'
The kids seemed to be happy with whatever was theirs, happy with their broken toys, and a warm meal for the night.
What a feeling of guilt that was for me, that evening, they had so little but were the happiest ones I have seen in a long long time.
What does it take to make us all happy and content ? we must look around and then it will dawn upon us, how  fortunate we are. 

It is totally up to us to be the way we are.
So lets dwell on the little things, and look around for happiness, its not too far.. a smile, a touch or maybe a warm hug.